I have finished writing my fourth book, Accepting Your Best Self. It was unlike my other books in that it was visited then left, visited then left, and visited then left over a two year period. I believe there was a reason for that. I think it was to give me some opportunities to have events and people come into my life that I would learn from. It gave me a chance to let go of some things that would once have sent me reeling because of the negativity they brought with them. There were events and people who presented themselves in a positive fashion and later proved to be unworthy of my consideration.
It was during these times that I put the book aside to work on other projects with these people. Projects that I thought would be important and lead me into a sustaining network. This proved to be the opposite of what it did. It left me wondering about my capabilities. The very people and situations that I had originally thought would lift me up, left me battered.
It is like that many times in life. We have expectations that are not realized, we find that many things that happen are beyond our control, and we are disappointed in others. This creates tension within us and sometimes causes us to block those feelings that can help us get out of this mindset that has been created.
You see, we are operating under the assumption that we are in control of our lives. What we are in control of is our reaction to those events that present themselves in our lives. Every problem has within it the ability for us to grow and learn. We place much emotional energy into situations than they deserve. We stress over the seemingly insignificant events and ignore the larger events. A great determiner is to ask yourself is this, “In a year will this situation matter?” If the answer is “yes,” then it may need another look, if the answer is “no,” then we need to just let it go and get on with the joy of life.
When we can let go of what gets us down, we can function much more efficiently and will gain a greater insight into what issues are really important and what are minor irritations.
Something To Ponder