I will first tell you that some of these suggestions are not coming from my brain. They are techniques that have been suggested in books I have read and techniques that I have incorporated into my daily routine that have worked for me. Much of what I will share in the next few weeks come from the channeled teachings of a non-physical entity called Abraham. This is communication with the collective conscious that we are all a part of, the intelligence of life, if you will. I also use work from Wayne Dyer that I have drawn on for years to help me improve my life. It is with these two mentors that I share simply what has worked for me to help create days that are enjoyable rather than irritating.
Scene for the morning: You get up and stub your toe. Grumble, grumble, and a few expletives because, dammit, it hurts! You shower, get ready for work and decide to stop and get coffee on the way. Someone pulls in and cuts you off in line for the coffee! Dammit! You don’t have time for this, you are in a hurry and running late. You get to the job with about 30 seconds to spare and go to your daily task, whether that be a desk job or a more active job. You are still thinking about that person that cut you off and “made you late.” The boss is having a bad morning, and you are getting the brunt of his bad mood, so you continue to grumble... and so the day goes.... You go home, and the kids are in an argument that you have to intercede, and your day does not get better soon. At this point, whether you are male or female, your day has been a storm of disconnected disruptive events that have caused you to be on your last good nerve. You are short tempered with the partner and go to bed in a bad mood, thinking about all the crappy things that happened.
Now, how do you feel after reading this? Can you relate because you have had similar days? Did this bring about feelings of disruption and agitation as you read it and remembered those similar days? This is what usually happens.
An alternative scene for the morning..... You set your alarm for 15 minutes earlier than normal. As you wake, you stretch, take a few deep breaths, and think about how good the pillow feels on your head, how smooth the sheets feel on your body.... How glad you have another day of life to enjoy... you set your intent to have a wonderful day no matter what happens.... You then get up and proceed to take a shower and get to the job. You stop to get coffee, and someone cuts you off.... Your take a deep breath and consider that they may be late for work. You left with plenty of time since you set your alarm a few minutes earlier than you usually do. You look at the cars in the parking lot, focusing on the one you think is the most visually pleasing. You breathe deeply and smile. You get to work, and everyone is in an uproar, the boss is mad, and it appears that it is going to be another sketchy day. You breathe deeply and know that this day will pass like all others. It is your boss’s day to be in a bad mood, not yours. You set about your business, and when the interactions are less than pleasant, you direct your energy, or PIVOT, to thoughts of something that are more enjoyable. Maybe you think about plans you have for after work with friends or family. You think about the great movie you last say. Perhaps you just look out the window and look at the clouds in the sky or the rain that is coming down and give thanks for whatever there is out that window. The day is over, and the kids are in an argument when you get home. Again, another deep breath, and you direct them to alternative activities, perhaps removing them from each other’s presence for a while so you can all calm down and discuss why this particular behavior is not good for anyone in the house.....
It sounds like it might be unimaginable in your circumstances, after all, I don’t understand what you have to put up with.... And I don’t, but I want you to think about how you felt as you read the second scenario. Did it cause the feelings of distress that the first one did? I doubt it,... you may have even gotten a chuckle thinking - that lady has no idea!!!! But, I guarantee, I do. I lived for many years of my life letting every glitch in life leave me mad, aggravated, and just in a bad mood in general. I did not see things to be thankful for, and when someone would suggest that I just take things a bit more with the flow of life, I would think they were disconnected from reality.
When you can learn to pivot or turn from what you usually think and think in a different way, with an emphasis on being thankful for what is around you that is good, and not what is going wrong, you will be able to FEEL less irritated. When you can achieve this, you are on your way to improving each and every day. Make it a choice to feel as good as you can each and every day..... At the end of the day, spend a few minutes before you go to sleep thinking about how you positively activated good feeling throughout the day rather than dwelling on the negative. You will relax into the night’s rest ready to face another positive day when you wake up.
Something To Ponder