I had a moment of “down in the dumps” syndrome a week or two ago then found that there had been a full moon. Perhaps, I thought, it was the lunar pull that had me all out of sorts and sad. It, like everything else in life passed, and I was cheery again, contemplating the future of my business, organizing summer travels around business, and enjoying my renewed enthusiasm about gardening. Then, BAM, I was once again struck with “down in the dumps” syndrome. What is this all about, is there a planet somewhere in retrograde that is causing this? I have no idea and there is no one here to tell me.
What are we to do when we get those times that we feel that everything is out of alignment? What do we need to do to get things going again so we can float down the river of life and allow all good things to come to us. Even a momentary period can cause a distraction in how we are achieving our goals. So, I decided, I needed to take a close look at what was happening in my life during those temporary times when it was difficult to stay focused on the positive things going in my life and give in to the sadness rather than the gladness.
In both instances, I had been taking steps in a certain direction and had enlisted the help of others in the achievement of my goals and desires. In both cases, there had been glitches in the participation of the other parties. I had expected certain actions or behaviors from them and they had not given me what I had expected. I processed this in a way that caused me to get out of alignment with my positivity. Nothing was wrong in my interaction with these parties. They had done nothing “wrong”, they had simply not done what I had expected them to do.
After realizing that this was the cause of my disappointment, I looked at each individual interaction with these parties and came to one unavoidable conclusion. When we are disappointed about anything in life, we need to do a couple of things.
First we need to review, objectively, what happened. We need to make certain we do not project what we THINK, might have happened, we just need to look at it. It may be something as simple as someone not answering a text. We often jump to the conclusion that the person is avoiding us, that they are rejecting us, that we have done something to alienate them. What actually happened is, they did not respond to the text. Simple. No reason whatsoever to make that a cause of disappointment, but because we have projected a desired response and they have not delivered that response in exactly the way we had expected, we experience disappointment. So, in order to avoid disappointment in the future, it is critical that we do not expect certain behaviors out of those we know, work with, or love. To do this will always cause disappointment when they do not do as we have projected.
Rather , instead, look at our friends and loved ones with appreciation that they are sharing whatever port of their lives with us and enjoy the interaction whenever it comes our way. Always remember that we, too, may have actually disappointed them at some point in time. Enjoy.
Something To Ponder