My mother once told me that she didn't think anything would ever make me happy. I remember crying that night when I went to bed. It was just heartbreaking for me, even at a young age, to think that I would never know happiness. As I grew up and got through school, I had lots of happy moments with friends, but even through the smiles and laughter, it never settled into me that I was truly happy. I always seemed to be on the fringe of that elusive feeling.
When I graduated from college and began my teaching career, I thought that would make me happy. I was on my own, in charge of my choices for about the first time in my life. I made some mistakes, sure, but none that paralyzed me or changed the direction of my life. None of the choices I made gave me the happiness I desired.
I met a man and fell in love. Surely marriage and love would make me happy. But it didn't. I enjoyed my marriage, but I was not happy. I was elated when I found out I was pregnant with my first child and I think I saw, very briefly, what happiness felt like, but it was not a feeling that lingered. The birth of both of my children was a happy occasion, but not a source of true happiness. If you have raised children, you will understand. Love is there, but there is also concern.
My children were preschool age when my marriage fell apart, and I became a single parent. That was most assuredly not a time for happiness, and I felt myself sink into feelings of anxiety and depression. There were still moments of happiness even within the frustration, but it was brief. When would I find the happiness that I was seeking? I was in my, and it was still not there. How long would I have to wait, would it ever come to me? These questions followed me around through my forties and fifties. Situations would come and go leaving me more puzzled than before. I would be in a good mood one day then miserable the next. Even on the good days, it was not happiness that was surrounding me, and I knew it. I began to question whether or not I would even recognize happiness if it showed up.
Jump ahead to the decade of my sixties. I had resolved myself that my life was bland. Accept it and move on. It was then that I reconnected with a college roommate and her sisters. Within this cluster of three women was a profound awakening. These women loved each other and enjoyed being together. When I was with them, I was accepted into the group, and I had a chance to see how people who were happy lived. None of them had an easy life. They had struggled with money, with relationships, or the lack thereof, yet they still really enjoyed themselves. People around them were drawn, as was I, to their energy.
It was then that I began a friendship with one of the sisters that were to change my life. She was very spiritual and suggested some books she had read. We would talk late into the night about all sorts of things going on in our lives, and her attitude was one of complete enjoyment about the life she was living. As I read more and more of the books she suggested, I added others. Wayne Dyer, Eckhart Tolle, Depak Chopra, Neil Donald Walsch, Dalai Lama, Esther Hicks, and many others. I began to change my focus.
I set my intent and saw my vibrational energy rise. Along with this, I began changing the way I reacted to the world around me and looked at life with a feeling of much appreciation for all that was going on.
One day I remember sitting on my back patio, lounging in a chair with my eyes closed, just enjoying the day. It was a beautiful day in the summer.....Not too hot, just right. There was a brief breeze that blew in from out of nowhere and a thought that ...... "this is how it feels to be happy." THIS IS HOW IT FEELS TO BE HAPPY. I had released any resistance to life and had allowed myself to BE happy. I opened my eyes, and it hit me that all I had to do was BE HAPPY. That had been there all my life, but it was just now that I had realized that the door had never been locked. All I had to do was turn the know and enter the room. All the years I had walked back and forth in front of that happiness door, thinking it was locked to me. It never was. I was the one who kept myself from entering.
It is with this that I leave you. All you have to do in order to live life as a happy individual is to simply choose happiness. It is there, always. Namaste.
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